It’s a question asked too many times that needs to be binned.
Because it’s a nonsense question.
Firstly, the question demands a yes or a no answer. Life is never about binary choices. There’s a lot of grey and nuance (which is great)
Second, it’s inherently sexist. Prompted to think about this after a post on Instagram by Caitlin Murray.
When do we ever expect men to answer this question?
Third, what even is having it all? It means something different to everyone.
On a good day, I have “it all” – family, friends, work, health, education and freedom.
On a great day, I am grateful.
But on a bad day, I dwell on what I don’t have… influence in fashion, plans to travel to South America, tickets to see Billie Eilish again on Saturday night… or a pony.
See. It isn’t linear. It’s perspective.
Wanting more, having goals, desires, ambition, isn’t a flaw. It’s what drives us forward.
So can women have it all?
Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe sometimes. Maybe never. Maybe always.
Terrible answers to a terrible question.
Stop asking. Stop trying to answer.
